madaboutmoose的日记, 2009年06月15日

Well like everyone has pointed out including you, people have to put others down to pull themselves up. I am sorry you had to go thru that. Shame on that woman! At 200lbs someone told me I was addicted to exercise and it was not healthy. That person being one only ever exercising their mouth, lol. It may be funny but it takes a bit out of us. I think you look fabulous, you are healthy and happy and eating right so screw her. 

Thats crazy and what right do they have to tell you that. i would understand if you were tiny and it was from a close friend or family member but someone at work i would tell them not to be so jealous! im sure you look great :) x 

LOL!!! I love it!! Mouth exerciser!!! No worries ... I'm not all that upset ... I just find it puzzling. Now, if it was my bestfriend or my husband who said something to me I would have to consider their input. But some woman who doesn't even really know me??? Silly. Thanks gals!!! It's kind of cool ... no one has EVER told me I was TOO skinny!! LOL!! 

Skinny is something I have not tired of hearing, lol. 

Ever notice the people who say that are the one's who aren't concerned about their health? It's amazing that when we step out from the norm (overweight, unhealthy, etc) and do things to improve our health, people treat us like we're offending them by not being as overweight or as unhealthy as they are. A co-worker even asked if I was doing drugs, lol. So keep up the great work buddy and continue to be an excellent example of good health!  

I really believe that people say those things because they are simply jealous. In your co-worker's case, she might need to lose a few pounds herself and resents you for getting thin. She'd like you to pack the pounds back on so she could relate you better. "Misery loves company", after all. Keep doing what you are doing!!!! Let them say what they will.  

Oh my gosh Pking ... someone actually asked you if you were doing drugs????!!!!!!!! Unbelievable!! 

Yep. She said it in a humorous way so I didn't take offense to it.  

I have found that one of the things that is helping me this time around with the watching the food is I am now working in a bike shop rather than an office. Everyone there rides and rides hard. At 206 I am gigantic...the manager is 148. Two guys my height are 170-180 and one of my other close associates at the shop is the head mechanic, he is about 5'6" 127...and rides BMX and Dirt Jumpers. He can actually still wear 20T kids pants. With this crew being too skinny is out of the question but when I was in an office I would have constantly heard "how thin" I was getting. I agree with all the comments from folks in here...ignore these folks that want you to bve overweight to justify them being overweight. There are also the folks who just don't like change...any change...they have an image of you and when you force them to change it, they'd rather not...they would rather that you change back. One word...DON'T. 

That is possibly the most discouraging comment that a person who is losing weight can encounter, be very careful that it doesn't momentarily derail you. A while back I ran into the exact same thing, so believe me I know *exactly* how you felt/feel. Analysis: People are not accustomed to seeing dramatic weight losses in others and this is one of the typical reactions. They are just not used to a skinny you. In my case, several months later the same person who made a similar comment to me told me that I was looking great. Don't let it phase you. 

Thanks. I didn't think it bothered me but it sort of does. I won't let it derail me. It's funny ... how people see each other and what they feel comfortable letting come out of their mouths. Oh well. Today is another day and I "know" I am not going to get sick!!  

Of course it bothered you. It would bother anyone. We dont want to let people know it bothers us as to not give satisfaction to the rude person saying it, but truth is it hurts. Its like you second guess every thing you have done, at least thats what I did. I kept thinking do i exercise to much? Am I addicted? Am I vein? Do I talk to much about my loss? Have I lost too much too fast? Am I sick? Every snide comment makes me think, I hate that. Like someone once told some people that I am only relaxed because I have help, I take something she said. Yeah I have post pardum depression and am not ashamed, but then I thought what if I am only this person bc of the pill, maybe thats how I lost the weight...so I went off of them for 3 weeks continued to lose weight but was not doing great emotionally, then I realized that my body needs that pill at least for a little while and shame on her for trying to make me feel bad about getting help. Shame on that woman for saying that to you too! 

i have come to the conclusion that most people are just plain rude...they do not think before they speak and really do not care about how the words that they say are taken or might effect the person they are talking about...remember that you are doing this for you and your body will tell you when you are getting sick - your body will tell you when it is time to stop losing - your body is a wonderful creation that will let you know what it needs and what it doesn't...listen to it and i have tried this and at first it is very difficult to do...but when someone says something to me that i do not like, appreciate or cannot determine why they said it...i ask...Why did you say that - or What is that based on - or if it is rude i say "how rude" and walk away...it works good luck and stay true to you