Carol that is horrible. What a vicious thing for someone to do. You know the saying what comes around goes around. Anyone who behaves like that is certainly behaving like that with other people and will eventually have to pay for their awful behaviour. I am so sorry you are going through this. Keep your chin up. You will get through this. Hugs and love to you and your family.
2010年05月26日 会员：: chattycathy1955
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Once. Just once I would like to see 'what comes around goes around' in action. Just once.
2010年05月26日 会员：: madaboutmoose
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I agree with Cathy! I wish I lived near you and could be your lawyer and sue them for libel and slander. They are truly vicious and cruel people! I'd also like to sue them for theft for stealing your FIL's belongings. She wasn't his wife and did not have any property rights in HIS things.
2010年05月26日 会员：: Chris1979
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Oh lord, I can't believe these people! What losers - Don't they have better stuff to do with their time?? And at a time like this - Really! Are you going to have to see them at the funeral - hope not! Anyway... Your doing great with the diet and exercise, so thats wonderful, and I agree with you not getting on the scale right now - its just another number you don't need to be worring about... lol who the heck am I?!?!?! LOL Maybe I should follow my own advice, huh? LOL Have a good one, HUGS!!!!
2010年05月26日 会员：: MomofTwoGirls
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I for one am a very firm believer in KARMA!! You just keep your head up and know that you are a good person and dont let the liars get you down. It will all work out for the best and they will get what they deserve in GOD's time. The only thing that should matter is that YOU & GOD know the truth and it WILL come out. It always does!! I know you are dealing with alot of DRAMA right now and you will come out on the other side of it all the better!! I will be thinking about you!
2010年05月26日 会员：: Wintergirl
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Carol, I commented this morning on your journal of a couple of days ago.....Know you and Bob remain in my prayers....as for fake MIL and family....they will soon be nothing more than a bad memory for you....You've behaved admirably under the circumstances.....I'm not sure I could exercise the control you have shown....given their egregious behavior - I''d be entertaining thoughts of -well....best not vocalize it here! Sounds like you have a few precious mementos to hold on to.....and most importantly, you have the memories of having shared in his life.....Keep your chip up darlin'....and may the drama end quickly.....big hugggggs.....D
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Oh now there is more. The other daughter of fake MIL called my FIL's brother and 'wants the car back' because the will said 'everything goes to" fake MIL. Prior to my FIL's death he had arranged with his brother that the sale of his car and his gun would pay for his cremation and burial. His brother is the executor of his will. So, he told fake MIL's daughter ... fine ... we'll file with probate and value all his items because the executor is responsible for paying the bills of the deceased and his cremation and burial is one of his bills. Apparently she backed off a little but I do not think we are done with this yet. Of course ... my FIL's agreement was verbal, not written ... the car is only worth about $800.00 and won't even cover all the cost of the cremation. I wish I had the money for an attorney. egads!!!
2010年05月26日 会员：: madaboutmoose
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i am soooo sorry...i too wish i lived closer and could help...will be praying for your for guidance and peace
2010年05月26日 会员：: veggies yuk
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I think you SHOULD do that regardless--- file with probate to value all his assets. That would essentially freeze the assets and prevent your fake MIL's family from doing anything with them. It would tie up the process for most likely 1-2 years... something to think about if you want to give them a little of their own medicine! Grrr I'm so upset for you!!!
2010年05月26日 会员：: Chris1979
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OMG! I just saw the news of your FIL's death, I'm so sorry moose. I hope you and Bob will receive my sincerest condolences. I'm rushing through making a few comments, but your journal requires more than superficial attention, so I will try be back later to digest everything that has been going on in my absence. And me complaining about my minuscule problems... very sorry budddy!
2010年05月26日 会员：: information
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Focus on the positive - you still have Bob and you are still maintaining - hope things settle down once FIl is cremated! It sounds like FIL's brother has his work cut out for him, but it also sounds like he is handling it sensibly!
2010年05月26日 会员：: abbadabba
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Oh my Moose, have faith that those rotten vicious people will get just what they deserve in the end. Be glad that FIL does not have to be around them anymore. What really crappy timing they have to do such a thing now. Shows how much they cared..... materialistic bastards. Rest well Moose and keep up your excellent work on your diet.
2010年05月26日 会员：: The Next Number
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Moose, it seems that those people will be happy only when they will have destroyed everybody around. I know you won't let them put you down, but what a waste of energy when you should think about your family and try to live in peace after your loss. I am so sorry and so shocked, but also so proud of you. Hang in there Carol, I wish I could help, for now I'm sending you hugs.
2010年05月26日 会员：: jessyline
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Keep the faith Carol. They will not prevail in this insanity--just keep your head down, keep doing what you know to be the right thing and don't take the crazy bait they're putting out there. There is no way on earth those scumbuckets are going to scare up a lawyer to challenge FIL's brother's disposition of the car to pay debts of the estate, according to FIL's wishes. If he had wanted FMIL to make all the decisions, he would have made her executor. Brush it off and move forward--they will be gone forever soon enough. GREAT job on taking care of yourself. I am very proud of you. :)
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I'm snuggled in bed with my iTouch trying to stay abreast of things. I've only seen today's post and all the comments and was about to say something but I believe it wiser to get a more complete picture from your previous posts and see what kind of advice you are getting. When it comes to death, money, and human emotions, none of this surprises me. Sadly, far from unusual, these things have become more the norm and should teach us all that for the sake of our families we need to be very clear with exactly how how we want things handled after we die. I have even seen people fighting for the bodies of the deceased so be aware that *anything* goes.
2010年05月27日 会员：: information
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Good Morning Carol. I hope you got a good rest and that today will be a better day. I have been thinking about you and how you are being treated and wish I could support you in some other way. You are a strong person and you will get through this. It just sucks that you have to deal with all these problems at a time that is sad and full of enough emotion. You and your husband are in my prayers.
2010年05月27日 会员：: chattycathy1955
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I am so sorry you are going through all of this. I am also so proud of you and how well you not only handle yourself but the way you keep going no matter what. Personally I would file with the probate court. Let them pay taxes on everything. AND I have to say it...these people are bastards and don't deserve anything to be handed to them. How DARE they? The estate has to pay out whatever is owed FIRST. Let them get what little, if anything, is left over at the end of years of the court taking its sweet time.
2010年05月27日 会员：: dawn0001
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