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Not a good day...
Not sure what is going on with people here. I'm 20lbs down from my starting weight which is pretty exciting for me. I told my boss yesterday, we chit chat about stuff and he was the only person in my office I even mentioned it to. There's some kind of black cloud in this place right now.
Today I came in and saw donuts in the breakroom. Do I care? No. Do I want one? No. I didn't even really think about it. Went on about business. My boss comes to my desk and remarks how the donuts were moved (they are usually right by my desk). He says how he shouldn't have done that because I was so excited yesterday.. and genuinely I know he probably didn't even think about it. I start telling him, no, no no, don't worry about me. If I want one, I will have one. I just don't really want one today, plus everyone else gets excited when you bring them in. As I am saying this to him another office mate keeps making loud comments, "She can have one... she can have one.. I don't know why she doesn't think she can one... She can have she just has to exercise..." So I loudly comment back, "You are welcome to all the donuts you want. If I don't want one, I'm not going to eat one..." My boss is oblivious, starts saying how he can now maybe bring in strawberries, maybe chocolate covered, and another workmate comments snarkly "dark chocolate, that's healthy for you." I get if this was in a "nice" way or a "supportive" way, it was said in a very clear snarky way.
My huge supply order arrives and as I'm unloading it in the breakroom I tell the delivery guy loudly, "You know, maybe once I get all this put away, I can finally have a donut!"
It's ridiculous. Their comments make me feel like I'm perceived as a crying blob of fat with a donut dangling over me on a hook. Is that reality? Well, it certainly isn't MINE. I have not once inquired to them on tips for this weight loss journey that I am on. It's like they just want to be mean or discredit what I am doing for myself. It's just downright rude.
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I'm so sorry, it sounds like jealousy to me or just mean-ness. Some people just like to complain and bring others down, there's nothing you can do about it. On an up note it sounds like your boss is being HUGELY supportive, how awesome is that? Him offering to bring something else in instead, even though you don't want to put him out to do (and I totally get that feeling) how awesome is it that he's willing to instead of just thinking you are being unappreciative of him bringing in the donuts. Just ignore the others, you can't do anything about them. Know that some people (like me) think you are doing awesome and making great choices!!!
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Calyn is right. Same thing happens to me around the office. Some people understand being healthy and are very supportive. Other people, like Calyn said, are just jealous and the only way for them to justify eating the donut or to feel better about their own health is to poke fun at the people who are better than them. Take it as a compliment girl! Your doing great.
2014年06月5日 会员：: bigbassbrent
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I think that when people start on a journey toward being healthy, it becomes such a big part of your life because your choices are enveloped into many facets of life, and so naturally it comes up in conversation with co-workers etc. Some of them begin to resent the discussion because then they become conscious of their own choices, which makes them self-conscious sometimes. So they get "annoyed" by others and their journey. Some people can eat sugar sporadically and it's not an issue, others cannot. Some people can pastries sporadically, others cannot. So that is a hard thing for other people to grasp. Chalk it up to their lack of education and insecurity.
2014年06月5日 会员：: Torzie206
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2014年06月5日 会员：: Torzie206
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Your office mates sound awful. What a bunch of haters. They obviously won't take steps to improve their own health so they are trying to bring you down and make you feel deprived. I would shrug it off and say, 'I eat donuts whenever I want' or 'I eat delicious food all the time and I'm still losing weight' because it's all true. It's all in the choices that you make. If you were that miserable without a donut, you'd have one, but you're just above it. :)
2014年06月5日 会员：: megmonster
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Back biters? That just proves you're out front. I'd say you struck a nerve. It sounds to me like their guilt is talking.
2014年06月5日 会员：: northernmusician
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They are jealous because you have a strong will power to resist.
2014年06月5日 会员：: titleagent
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You can't change how people will respond to changes. Just making any kind of positive changes will trigger responses in others that will say, you were ok the way you were and y the way it makes me feel guilty about not making positive changes in my life. Even very nice people may have responses that are not in line with would be helpful. It takes effort to move from the auto-pilot thinking that doughnuts are a nice thing to finding other... maybe non food ways to be nice to fellow employees. Most of us just stay on auto-pilot. GOOD FOR YOU FOR KNOWING THAT YOU MUST TAKE CARE OF YOU, AND COME HERE FOR UNDERSTANDING.!
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LOL, too funny!!! Yes, jealousy will make people do strange aout of the ordinary things... Good for you, lol ;)
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Omg... I meant do strange things out of the ordinary... Thanks for putting up with hy type O's ;)
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Angel, I am so sorry that you are facing this kind of crap at your office! I can not understand people at times how they can be so hateful.. geez...
2014年06月9日 会员：: hoosier436
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