Sometimes I really hate going places with my SO. Not because of him or anything like that, it's honestly because of the looks we get. I weigh around 100 pounds more than he does. It wasn't like that when we met, but it's like that now. And honestly my weight gain hasn't affected him in any way, honestly our relationship has never been better. But the looks people give us really bother me. He sees none of this, because we all know how well men observe things, but it annoys me all the same. Anyone else out there going through the same or similar struggle?? I'm not necessarily looking for advice on how to deal with it, but someone who gets it would be awesome to vent to every now and then.
<3 Hannamaee
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I hear ya. My hubby is only about 60lbs less than me, but he's 8 inches taller than me, so I look like I weigh alot more when I stand next to him. It is so frustrating! It doesn't bother him. He loves me no matter what, but I feel very self-conscious in public with him...especially when we go to his work events. :(
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Gosh he and I are the exact same height, well he's an inch taller, so it is PAINFULLY obvious how much more it is. Not only that he's on the smaller side for a guy as well. He's 5'7" and only 130-135 pounds. He's absolutely tiny, and I look enormous in comparison.
I know how you feel about the work events though. I almost always excuse myself from going to them now. Hopefully I'll gain some confidence here soon enough and start going to them again. I want to look like something he can be proud of!
I hope the same happens for you too! We're so blessed that they love us no matter what aren't we? Makes for a good support system.
2014年01月9日 会员:: hannamaee
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Totally understand. At my heaviest I was almost 100 pounds heavier than hubby. He's 5'8" 160-165 lbs. I'm only 5'1" and was 250. It didn't affect our relationship either, but for me it was horrible in my own head.... I now weigh what he does so it's better to me, but again, I totally get it.
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That's probably True @Cindy 23, I know it's just my own self consciousness, but when people do look I always think the worst. Working on raising my self-esteem for sure!
2014年01月9日 会员:: hannamaee
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